Go All 1N Podcast
Go All 1N Podcast: All 1N. Every Day. No Excuses.
Hosted by a driven blue-collar entrepreneur, Jake Fine and a Notre Dame football alumnus and NFL veteran turned business leader, Braxston Cave, this podcast is for those who know the value of hard work, resilience, and going all in on what matters most. From the RV factory floor to the football field and beyond, we uncover the stories, strategies, and mindsets of those who hustle to turn challenges into opportunities and dreams into reality.
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The Cost of Comfort
EP. 85 The Cost of Comfort
What's the true price we pay for staying comfortable?
Most of us don't realize how much our avoidance of discomfort is costing us. When we dodge difficult conversations, stick to familiar routines, and always choose the safe option, we're quietly trading our potential for convenience. This invisible transaction might be the biggest reason people remain stuck in life.
The world constantly trains us to seek comfort and instant gratification, yet history shows that meaningful growth happens through challenge. Think about it: from biblical figures facing resistance to achieve greatness, to the concept that hard times create strong people who then create good times – discomfort shapes us. We explore this fascinating cycle and what it means for current generations who might be missing crucial growth opportunities in an increasingly cushioned world.
What about our children? How do we balance wanting to give them advantages while ensuring they develop resilience? We dive into this parenting paradox and share personal stories about life-changing moments where stepping into discomfort completely transformed our trajectories. The truth is, that feeling of resistance when facing a decision is often your internal compass pointing toward growth.
Ready to embrace discomfort and unlock your potential? Listen now and discover why that uncomfortable decision you've been avoiding might be exactly what you need. You're always just one choice away from a completely different life – make it count.
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Welcome back to the go all in podcast.
Speaker 2:I'm Braxton Cave and I'm Jake Fine Today. Man, we don't even know how long this is going to go, Quick hitter or what We'll see how long it goes.
Speaker 2:We're going to be talking about the cost of comfort. Basically, we'll be digging into how stepping into discomfort leads to real growth, plus stories I have a couple stories to tell about, you know, transformation through challenge. So you know I'll just go straight into it. You know comfort is expensive. Most people don't realize how much. You know what it's costing for them and people avoiding like the hard conversations and when they stay in the routine, people avoiding like the hard conversations and when they stay in the routine, um, when you always choose what's safe, um, you're paying with your potential and you're trading growth for convenience.
Speaker 2:And that's one of the biggest reasons why. You know I've done it, I've been stuck before and I feel like that's many. You know it's a reason why people stay stuck. Your journey is going to be a challenge. I feel like if you're going on the smooth road and you're not running into any hiccups or anything like that smooth sailing, I feel like you're just not taking the hard route. I mean, I'm still doing it, I'm still doing the rv thing and, um, I feel like I'm on cruise control when I'm doing that. And if I, if I just stay doing that and not build my brand or build any more business ventures I want to do in the future. Um, I just I like to challenge myself and I like to get uncomfortable and I feel like when you do that, you know you're you're growing from it, you're you're getting better.
Speaker 1:So I think the hard thing is the the world that we live in trains us to seek comfort and to chase comfort and convenience, and it's like we.
Speaker 1:We just weren't built for easy. I just I love the our church uses the term we do hard things, like that's. I love that, that motto, and it's I've kind of pulled it into the business world of like anytime we're challenging ourselves, like the first thing is you get resistance always, but when you can get a group of people to buy into the idea of that we do hard things, we are who we are because we do hard things, like it changes the whole perspective of what you're able to do. And I think that you know going off of the resistance piece and back to faith, it's like God's greatest assignments often came with resistance. You know, you look at when you look into scripture, you look at, you know the story of Moses, david, paul, jesus, like constantly, constantly going against the grain, and you know I just truly believe if it's, if it's stretching you, it's shaping you into something different, and you look at like what that journey, you know, I think you you could look at, like you know, chasing comfort versus like we all want the quick win, like that's another thing we're all being trained into, the instant gratification.
Speaker 1:And when you look back in history, like the significance of, you know, 40, the number 40, 40 days, 40 years. But once they've got through that, what, what is? What did 41 look like? You know, I've, I've this is in my I got a new piece of tattoo artwork that I'm getting worked on this fall, and the number 41 plays into it because I love the idea of, like you have to go through something difficult to then reach the beauty of what comes after that, and so the idea of the number 41 has been significant to me because of, you know, the, the biblical references of 40 and no one talks about. You know, they talk about the, the 40 days or the 40 years of struggle, but what about 41? That's where, you know, the magic happens, or where all the beauty was.
Speaker 1:But they had to go through the struggle and the discomfort to get there, which leads to, you know, we've all heard the saying that, you know, hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men and weak men create hard times, and I think we're living in that right now. I mean, you just look at the generations around us. You know, I think a lot of us came, you know our generation came through hardworking men who created good men like us in easy times and now we're having to work through this.
Speaker 1:Holy smokes. I don't want my kids got to grind. I need to figure out ways to make life challenging for them. Because we've talked about it on this podcast before, but Rogan has mentioned he had a podcast. I'm trying to remember who it was with, but he's like man every successful friend I have, I have came from a shitty background and he's like now my kids living in the successes that I have the 41, the year 41. And I don't want them like. I want them to have to work hard and go through the things that I did, but differently than I did yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, it's like how do you find some type of balance between making your kids work hard and go through discomfort without maybe having to feel some of the unnecessary heartbreak that maybe we had to? Yeah. And um, but I think that's part of our generation that's different than others.
Speaker 2:Big time, I mean, for I mean example wise, you know, career. It's just like if you have a family-owned business that your parents or your grandparents built from the ground up and you graduate college and all that and you get the CEO position right away. You didn't start from the very bottom. That's the thing this generation's handed. I mean, holy cow man, they are just gift-w, gift wrapped, a lot of things. And you know we've talked about this with NIL deals. You know, I know you can talk about this cause, this. They weren't even around when you played and she's talked about. Are they building these athletes to? You know? Are they able to take care of themselves? Yeah, they're going to have money if they do it the right way. But no, are they going to know how to make themselves food? Are they, without you know, calling DoorDash or something like that? You know it's these little situations like that. It's like they're. They've been catered their entire time, you know.
Speaker 1:Well, what would be interesting to me is like once the kids going through this, the ones that you know, step into the real world and get a job, and you get a hard slap of reality. Yeah. You know it'll be interesting to see who pushes through that and who can't, and I think there's going to there'll be studies done on this. I guarantee you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because there's. You know, just from my own personal experiences. Like I, I have a lot of buddies that I played with who just could not make the transition and that was going from no money to no money, let alone going from receiving money to not being able to figure it out. It'll be interesting to see what happens.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because I feel like they're skipping all the basics, the stuff that we learned, like the financials. That needs to be taught. I mean we were taught that. I mean to a point, you know we, but they need to be teaching these people how to balance a checkbook. You know it's, it's not done. I feel like just the system is catered to you to fail um, yeah, I mean going.
Speaker 1:Going back to people being handed things. I mean I have a couple buddies who I respect the hell out of because they come from generational wealth and if you didn't know that you would never have any idea Like they work their butts off trying to make their own. You know, live their own life, create their own legacy. Um, obviously there's. There's nothing wrong with coming from a family like that's yeah what a great head start you can have.
Speaker 1:I mean, that's what I, ultimately, what I want for my kids, like I want them to be able to choose, to chase a path that they're passionate about, versus like having to pick something and grind through it just because they, the ones who are, you know, gifted money or things and they don't have to work for it and they just kind of accept that and, um, that's tough. Mm. That's. I just can't imagine a life where you don't have to wake up every day and get after it.
Speaker 2:You don't have to wake up every day and get after it. That's got to grind. Since we're on, I was going to ask you what's a moment in your life where stepping into discomfort completely changed your trajectory.
Speaker 1:I mean, I think that there's been I don't know that there's been like one significant one along the way, but there's like been many. I feel like in life I've hit many, you know, paths in the road where the road forked. Yeah.
Speaker 1:I had to pick one way or the other. You know, I remember being in in sixth grade and my parents being like, okay, where do you want to go to school as a 12 year old? Right, you're like you know, and it was like, okay, you could go to this school and probably be the best player on every team, or you can go to this school and if you work your butt off like you can, you know, work your way and probably end up, you know, starting and playing at some point and and I chose that route. So not that I not like it was that significant of a thing, but like starting and playing at some point and and I chose that route.
Speaker 1:So not that I not like it was that significant of a thing, but like I think it paid off. Um between that, you know, choosing to go to Notre Dame where I knew academically I was going to be challenged, um where I could have went to other schools and it would have been much easier. Yeah.
Speaker 1:To. Then, you know, jumping into my professional career, business career of you know, I jumped into an industry I didn't know a damn thing about and, you know, just jumping in, learning, seeking to understand, being humble and knowing that you don't know everything but you can learn along the way. I think there's just been many different things that have come up that have transformed my life and I haven't always picked the right one. I think the best decision I ever made was marrying my wife, you know cause she's, she's been with me through all those phases, pretty much that I just explained, minus being in sixth grade, not too far off. But you know, there's, there's so many, I think, just along the journey of life there's so many little decisions that you make that end up having a big impact in the end. It's typically never like this. The one yeah thing, right, talk about like drug addiction, like no one got into drugs wanting to be a drug addict yeah right, it was that one time at the party or the one time here.
Speaker 1:Oh, I'll try that it's just one. Decisions, um, that lead to a completely different life. You're always one decision away from a completely different life, yep. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was curious Cause I know you've had. Yeah, you're, I mean, after you came out of the NFL, and just the direction you went, you know, with RV and where you're at now, it's, I mean, it's just your story's phenomenal. I love your story, you know, and just the direction you went, you know with rv and where you're at now it's, I mean, it's just your story's phenomenal.
Speaker 1:I love your story, you know. It's like any. What I've noticed is like anytime I make a decision where I feel uncomfortable, it's that's always the right one. Yep, yeah. And then, after you do it, you're like that wasn't so bad. Yep, yeah, like that. I remember as a kid like I hated dancing at weddings, like the people always like drag me out to the dance floor. I'm like I don't want to do this. And then you get out there, you start dancing, you're having fun. You're like why, why wasn't I out?
Speaker 2:here the whole time because you feel like you're gonna be criticized and fun of, but everybody else is out there with you doing it, so like why? Right? Yeah, I was the same way.
Speaker 1:I did not like it whatsoever, nope yeah, I think you just have to realize that no one, no one's watching you, no one cares like, yeah, people are, people care about themselves yeah so like live life to the fullest and have fun like that's. That's what it's about yeah, I just feel.
Speaker 2:You know people take the comfortable route because comfort feels good in the moment, you know, but over the time it's going to steal. You know everything. You were meant to become right later.
Speaker 1:So yeah, I just, I mean, I always think about you. Know I think it was an ed mylett quote where he was talking about parents often will tell their kids you can be anything you want in life. Or if you work hard, you can do this, chase your dreams. And then what happens when your kid turns around and asks you well, why aren't you? And the majority of the time it's because you chose comfort. Yep, like, oh, I didn't want to be judged, or that was uncomfortable, or that would have been the hard way to do it.
Speaker 2:And I don't want you to go that route Right. So you've got to lean in discomfort. You know that's the only way you're going to get better man.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think. My last thing I'll add here is that it's like when you have a decision to make between a couple things like if you can sit down and lay it out, and you know that feeling when you're like man, this is probably the right thing, but it's so uncomfortable. That's the right decision, because when you pick the easier one, like you'll usually get you know six months to a year into it and you're like damn, why didn't I?
Speaker 2:What if that's the question you don't want to be asking. That's like what I try to avoid.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the regret later.
Speaker 2:I mean, I try to avoid, yeah, the regret later.
Speaker 1:And I have I mean, we all have them. Yeah, oh yeah, I have them to this day, man, I think about them all the time. But that's, I think that's a topic for a whole nother episode of how you can beat yourself up over what could have been what if I would have done this, and but.
Speaker 2:But that also messes with everything else you've run into in your life too. And that's with that. You know, um, just like the back to the future movie, you can go back in time to fix something that fixes everything else down the road. So yeah, that'd be another topic to talk about. But yeah, other than that, short and sweet that's it we're out of here.
Speaker 1:Give more impact, better, get uncomfortable.
Speaker 2:We'll see you, guys, yeah.
