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Leading by Example: Are You the Hero of Your Story?
Ep. 74 Leading by Example: Are You the Hero of Your Story?
Ever feel like you're living two lives - the one you present to the world and the one that exists when nobody's watching? Our quick-hitter episode tackles the powerful concept of leading by example and what it truly means to align your actions with your words.
We unpack the "Movie Crew Mindset" - a mental framework that challenges you to live as if cameras are rolling from the moment your alarm sounds until your head hits the pillow. Would you be proud watching that footage? This simple yet profound question has transformed how we approach each day, whether as parents, professionals, or community members.
Parents will particularly connect with our discussion about how "more is caught than taught" when raising children. Those little ones are absorbing everything - from how you speak to siblings to how you treat the family dog. They become walking mirrors reflecting your best and worst behaviors back to you.
For professionals, we challenge the common misconception that leadership comes from a title or position. True leadership begins with self-leadership - those "lonely hours" when you're investing in yourself without external pressure. If you're waiting for work hours to develop as a leader, you're missing the foundation of authentic influence.
The ripple effect of our example extends further than we realize. From punctuality to work ethic, attitude to integrity - others are constantly calibrating their standards based on what they see modeled. Are you setting a standard worth following? Are your actions truly matching your words? If you want to be a leader who makes a lasting impact, it starts with you.
Ready to become the hero of your own story? Listen now and discover how small daily choices create the legacy you'll leave behind. Share your thoughts with us - we love hearing how these conversations impact your journey!
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This is a piece of advice that I give people is utilize the movie crew mindset. Envision you know whether you fake it for a week. That's that's the test that I sell people. Fake it for a week. Pretend there's a movie crew that's following you from the second. Your alarm goes off to the second. Your head hits the pillow. You know and that's the movie. If you watch that movie back back, are you proud of that person.
Speaker 2:What's up? Welcome back to the Go, all In podcast.
Speaker 1:I'm Jake Fine and I'm Braxton Cave. In today's quick hitter episode we are going to hit on leading by example and you know, before we jump into this one, I got to give a quick special shout out to Andrew finally joining us.
Speaker 2:Andrew.
Speaker 1:James For a podcast episode coming right off of baseball practice. So pretty cool that he's able to join us and listen in. He hasn't yelled at us yet.
Speaker 2:Past his bedtime too.
Speaker 1:Saying anything that we shouldn't.
Speaker 2:Past his bedtime.
Speaker 1:It's past my bedtime, our bedtime, so let's dig in bedtime, our bedtime.
Speaker 2:So let's dig in.
Speaker 1:I'm going to go right into this. So for me, leading by example, my example, is the only thing in my life that I can control and I truly take that to heart and that's like I probably obsess over, like setting a standard and there's trust me, there's good and bad to that.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:There's times when my wife lets me know when I'm getting a little too far out of control. She's got to pull me back a little bit, but it's just, it's so critical to me of the example that I set. The first you know, bullet I'll hit on here is when it comes to parenting, and in parenting more is caught than taught, and I see it every day with my kids. You know, especially Copeland, my middle, you know he, you know he's like my little mini me in all the best and worst ways. And there's times when I very quickly, it's like watching film how I react and then I it plays back right to me with the way that he'll, you know, I'll see how he'll respond to his siblings and or how he talks to the dog, respond to his siblings and or how he talks to the dog. Right, that's been a new one in our household with a new dog, and I'm like man, he, that's coming straight from me and so to me it's a good reminder of my example and how I approach every day from a business perspective.
Speaker 1:You know, I'm, I'm a true believer in, in, in business, and you can relate to other things as well, but to me, in business you cannot effectively lead others until you can effectively lead yourself. And I see it all the time with people who come to me and they want to have one-on-ones and talk through hey, what's my career path? I really want to be a leader. And I look at them and I'm like how do you approach the day? Walk me through your routine, and then I go oh, I just get up and I drink a cup of coffee and then I just come into work and I'm like what about nighttime? What do you do at nighttime?
Speaker 1:Well, I hustle home to take care of the kids and then, you know, sit on the couch and watch netflix or something, and then I go to bed pull a bowl of saratoga water, yeah, and I'm like, well, at what point do you work on you? I'm like, well, I really don't get a chance to do that while I'm at work.
Speaker 1:I'm like, well, none of us do Like, if you want to lead your, if you want to be able to lead people, you got to be able to lead yourself to another level, and that happens outside of work hours, like the company's not paying you to sit here and you know work on yourself, right, we're working on our craft while we're here. But the real magic happens right In those lonely hours where it's just you, those lonely hours where it's just you and then you know.
Speaker 1:The last thing I'll hit on here and this is a piece of advice that I give people is utilize the movie crew mindset. Envision, you know whether. Fake it for a week. That's the test I always tell people. Fake it for a week. Pretend there's a movie crew that's following you from the second. Your alarm goes off to the second. Your head hits the pillow, you know, and that's a movie crew that's following you from the second. Your alarm goes off to the second. Your head hits the pillow, you know, and that's the movie.
Speaker 1:Like if you watch that movie back, are you proud of that person and what they did each day and how they approach each day and how they you know the things that they did when nobody was watching you know. That's where the true test comes.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I want to say Rogan or somebody mentioned this on a podcast a long time ago and it just that one really stuck with me, you know, cause there's days where you know I, I find myself pretending that I'm on a. Call it a reality TV show, call it what you want, call it a reality TV show, call it what you want. But like I do things to a standard as if someone's watching and you know I've I've said this to you in the past. Like I, I often do that Like I lost, I lost my grandfather last year, uh, who was a huge influence in my life.
Speaker 1:Like the hardest worker, you know, big time blue collar guy worked two jobs, like his whole life, and you know, with him in heaven, you know, looking down, I'm like would he be proud of how I'm, how I'm working, how I'm going after this day? Like I, I think about stuff like that and it's maybe that's taking it to another level for some people, um, but it's a true like daily motivator for me and that's to me, that's. That's not external, that's an internal motivation that I have every single day. So I would say, be the hero of your story yeah, you're the writer, that's right.
Speaker 2:So, um, my first point you know, actions speak louder than words. You know I know a lot of people have heard that If you want people to follow your lead whether it's your, you know your team, family, community you have to show them, not just tell them. You can preach discipline and then slack off. You can't expect hard work from others if you don't give it yourself. I mean, they see everything. Jackie's son sees everything. He is like her carbon copy and they're like exactly like he does the same thing, same antics as she does. I mean, they see everything. It's unbelievable, and I know your kids do the same with you.
Speaker 2:But you know, know, going into leadership you know you spoke on this it's not about the title, it's about the impact and your choices, your actions. That creates the ripple effect and the way you carry yourself, the effort you put in, the energy you bring. It all influences everybody that's watching you, that's around you. It's just like. I'll just use work, for example, if you and see a person that's consistently late you know five to 10 minutes they're like, okay, that guy's always late, but they're not getting on him. Oh, I guess I can do that too. You know, it's just, it's a ripple effect and everybody's going to follow suit what they do. Oh, he can get away with it, I'm going to do it.
Speaker 2:But yeah, integrity, you know, isn't about being great when people are looking, it's about who you are when you aren't. And, um, like you, you're a great leader. You build others up. Um, if your leadership is only about you, you're doing it wrong. I it's like I want to see everybody else win. Um, if, if everybody had that same mindset and wanted to see everybody else win, this country would not be be in the situation that it is right now Everybody against each other and the hate and all that. But yeah, that's my points, you know short and sweet, you know.
Speaker 1:I think another key piece when you're in leading by example is I think humility plays such a big role in it and you know to be able to admit when you're wrong and take feedback. And I I I've struggled with that at times of like you know, you feel like you're pouring everything in and doing everything right and then to get feedback that you're totally missing like that's hard, that's a hard pill to swallow at times. Um, I'm currently reading a really good book called the first 90 days and who wrote that?
Speaker 2:I'm blanking on it yeah, I'm blanking on it um I've heard of it, though, but I just can't think it's an incredible book, and there it's.
Speaker 1:What I love is it's broken out to give you, like action, actionable steps to take as you're you know whether you're taking on a new leadership position or you're moving into a new company or a new role. It gives you like defined action items to take.
Speaker 1:But another piece in it is it gives you you know some of the best, you know the best practice, or the best steps, best you know, the, the best practice or the best steps, and in in that I have written so many notes of like me looking back, as I've taken on different roles of where yep, I could have done that better. Like, oh, I fell right into that trap.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 1:I did, and I think that's okay, all right, cause you're learning as you go, but those are the mistakes that I don't want to make as I continue to move on and grow and so being able to reflect and actually absorb. That, I think, is a big part of leadership and leading by example. It's showing others like I don't have all the answers and being okay with that and learning from others.
Speaker 1:And then I think that you said it building others up, and then I think that you said it building others up. I think the greatest accomplishment you can have as a leader in Leaning by Example is seeing those who you have led continue to grow, whether that's your kids or people on your team, whether that's in sports or work. Watching them grow and take their next steps is, I think, the coolest part of leadership.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're setting them up and they're going to set their people up too. So, like I said, it's a ripple effect. So you know, in closing, you know you got to ask yourself are you truly leading by example? You know, are your actions matching your words? You know, are you raising the standard for yourself and those around you? You know, if you want to be a leader, it starts with you. You know, it's simple as that you got. You got to set the tone and go all in. You know, with everything.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, that's it. Yeah, if you, if you guys got some value out of this or have any questions, reach out, tag us love getting the feedback from you guys and and it's very valuable to us, but then also hopefully, we're adding value to you so and we have a guest coming up we do have a guest coming up.
Speaker 1:Yep um, totally different background and story than nick um who was our prior guest. Uh, really looking forward to this one, I think you guys will. You guys will get a story of tragedy and how he worked through that and being on the front lines of that tragedy. Crazy story, but a great human, someone who I learn from every day when I'm around him and I've had the privilege of being able to work close to his side for close to the last 10 years. So that's coming.
Speaker 2:I'm stoked for that one too. All right, we'll see you on the next one.
Speaker 1:See y'all, see y'all you.
