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5 Action Steps to Build the Best Version of Yourself
Ep. 66
5 Action Steps to Build the Best Version of Yourself
Balancing the demands of work and personal life can feel like walking a tightrope, especially in our hyper-connected world. Imagine finding yourself constantly pulled between the urgent ping of work emails and the tender call for family time. That's a struggle we've wrestled with, and this episode is a candid exploration of how to navigate that tricky terrain. We get personal, sharing our own trials with staying present at home while the allure of our phones beckons us back to work. With the help of loved ones who hold us accountable, we strive to prioritize family over digital distractions, finding small ways to reclaim our focus and sanity.
What if the concept of work-life balance was more about fluidity and adaptability rather than a rigid divide? We dive into this idea, challenging the traditional mindset and advocating for setting boundaries and routines that work for you. Our stories of burnout serve as cautionary tales, underscoring the vital role that self-care plays in maintaining balance. Drawing from James Clear's "Atomic Habits," we reflect on the profound impact small changes can have on our presence and effectiveness, both at home and work. Whether it's planning the night before or swapping out tech that distracts us, we explore the practical strategies that help us stay grounded and focused.
Life's unpredictability often demands that we pivot and recalibrate our priorities. We've learned to embrace adaptability with a mindset of consistency, understanding that balance evolves with different life stages. This episode is a testament to dedication and perseverance, celebrating the often unseen hard work behind success. By aligning our personal and professional lives through conscious choices, we aim to create a harmonious existence where passion drives our every action. Join us as we challenge conventional wisdom and offer insights into crafting a fulfilling life that beautifully blends work and play.
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Speaker 3:Man, you just stop right there. I'm Braxton Cave.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the Go All In podcast.
Speaker 3:I'm Braxton Cave. I'm Jake Fine, and today we're diving into something that every single one of us struggles with how to dedicate your time and energy to all aspects of life while still pursuing personal growth. We're going to give you five action items to help you win the day, basically.
Speaker 1:So let's kick today off with the challenges that we face. And I think all of us go through different challenges depending on what phase of life we're in, different seasons, whether you have kids, no kids in school, out of school. We're all in these different places in life. And so I'm going to go at this from a personal perspective just to give you guys the challenges that I face. And for me, my number one struggle is being present when I'm home, and you know I have a lot going on in my work life and we have a lot going on in our family life. And so you know it's a struggle that I've had for a long time of when I'm home, just to be intentional to being home and giving that time to my family and, if you allow it, the distractions of my phone. It's the number one issue that my wife and I have in our marriage and in our you know just, our family life. Have in our marriage and in our, you know just, our family life is because I can very easily be just glued and connected to my phone and constantly wanting to check emails and text messages and, you know, just staying plugged in with what's going on in in the work life, because you know, in the industry that I'm in and what I'm responsible for, it's a 24 seven. It's always on, there's always something happening and so, being intentional and allocating that time to my family, which to me is most important, it should be right. Um, I got it. That's something that I constantly have to and my wife does a great job of challenging me on it and yelling at me about it when she needs to.
Speaker 1:Um, but it's forced me to like when I get home, like the phone goes on the shelf. There's been days when I've had to take the phone and put it in the closet and put it away just because it was it would control me, and it's not that it was that was more important to me. It was I felt like I have a lot of people that I don't want to let down. I feel responsible for it and I have to be there for them and if they need something, and I would let that consume me and and I say I would let that, I let that consume me at times and it's something that I constantly struggle with and so you know.
Speaker 1:Again, going back to accountability, my wife does a really good job of staying in my ear and on that, and when you know, there's times when I don't even think, I don't even notice that I'm doing it and I'll just I'll go and grab it and check it and she's like Brax, seriously I'm like sorry, like it's, it's just a natural reaction. You Sorry, it's just a natural reaction. You don't even think about. It's like when you get that vibrate in your pocket and you don't even have your phone on you.
Speaker 3:Is that a habit? Would you call that a habit?
Speaker 1:I would say that's a bad habit.
Speaker 3:Because I just read, I just finished Atomic Habits by James Clear and that is your cue. You're instantly doing that. It's like your cue to go brush your teeth right when you get up in the morning. You constantly doing that.
Speaker 1:It's like your cue to go brush your teeth right when you get up in the morning, you know. So sorry for interrupting you, but I just want to say that. So, personally, that's that is my biggest challenge, and uh, I know that I'm not the only one that struggles with it.
Speaker 3:I think a lot of us struggle with it. I'll pick it back on with you on this one.
Speaker 1:It's uh, but again, we constantly talk about these challenges that we face when it comes to our phones or social media because we have been wired to be glued to these things right.
Speaker 1:They've done a really good job of getting us hooked they designed it that way for that reason and so it's a battle to make sure that you're setting the correct priorities and then putting right the stop gates in place that are going to keep you from, you know, putting that attention towards something that's not as important as family I'm gonna piggyback on because I'm the same, you know, running the brand.
Speaker 3:I mean, your phone is your computer. It's a super computer. It does everything. So I can do practically everything I need to do from that. So I'm constantly on it. I'm not going to lie, you know, and yeah, that's, it's a big, big distraction. You know, we've come up during the times when there's no social media, there's no cell phones you know I had a pager.
Speaker 3:You know that's the first thing that I had. But it's like now it's you. You got that computer on your hands. You can do anything you want on that thing and I can. I totally get it. And you know, with the business that you're in, I get it. You know that. But as we get further into this episode we'll dig in. But it's like prioritizing your set times to be on it and you know your family time and but, like I said, we'll get further than that. But I I'm both how what you said being present in the cell phone, that I mean I, that's practically probably everybody, to be honest, you know.
Speaker 4:You know. So you, I, my, my challenge is my burnout is at all time high, like, and when I'm burnt out and that's because of work. I'm not present for, you know, people in your life, but mine is I'm just go, go, go, go go all the time and then my body just shuts down, or I'm just, you know, I work myself into a migraine or whatnot, and people are, you know, they talk about what's that work, life balance. You got to find that and it's it's. You know, I said this, this, I threw this out for you, brex, because you're like, that doesn't exist and I've never, ever, um, found that. And I remember, before I had kids, I, when I was, when I was married, we were like, hey, I'm gonna work as much as I want, I'm gonna work my full-time job. And then we had three part-time jobs when we lived in indy and it was just I love to work, I love to work, I'm gonna work all the time.
Speaker 4:Now I'm like I'm I don't really take days off, but I'm really tired, really tired and I have one job, um, but um, yeah, it's, I was just go go go and I have been for so long, and I think probably the last year I've noticed this burnout and I, you know, I want to be there for my son if he wants to go play catch, and you know I'm not that old, so but I shouldn't be tired and wanting to fall asleep or take a nap after we run errands on a Saturday. So that's, you know, prioritizing my time, so I'm not consumed so much that I've burnt myself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean the balance thing is. I think we could do a whole episode on work-life balance or balance in general. I just like Jackie said, I don't believe in work-life balance. I think you just have balance you have life and no different than marriage, right?
Speaker 1:People are like, oh, marriage is 50-50. No, the hell, it's not. I mean, there's days when it's 90-10. There's days when it's 90-10. There's days when it's 95-5. There's days when it's 70-30. Like it's never a 50-50 split. And I just think that that, especially in marriage, like that is the number one thing that can set people up for failure. You start playing that game of keeping score and it's not 50-50. This isn't fair. Like it's not 50-50, this isn't fair. Like it's never fair, it's never 50-50. Like it's a partnership game.
Speaker 3:We're on the same team. You're on the same team.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you know, just before we go in here, like you were just saying, burnout is very easy in our society, and so I think you know taking care of number one, which is yourself, is most important, because it's impossible to pour from an empty cup. And so controlling, you know, your the way that you start your day. I think it's always the way you start your day. Maybe it's different for other people, but it's uh, figuring out, you know what. What do you need to put in place to where you can be the best version of yourself? And for me, that is allocating that time at the beginning of the day to make sure that I'm taking care of me, put myself in the right space and set myself up for success. And for me me and I know it's going to be different for everyone that's 4 am to 7 am, right, and that is when I work out, that is when I'm going to.
Speaker 1:If I want to read, I'll read. If I want to do my daily devotional, I'll do it. Then, if that's taking a shower, that's helping Natalie get the kids ready for school and get breakfast going. That is my time, because I know once it hits seven, like then, the world wakes up and life starts to happen and business starts to run, and and then it's. You know as much as I plan for that day. There's no telling what's going to happen. And so, as long as I'm able to allocate that 4 am to 7 am and there might be days where, like hey, I went to bed at midnight, I'm going to sleep till 5 today, but I'm still within my range of that's my time.
Speaker 1:And I'm going to do what I want with it and that's what has worked for me, and I know it's going to be different for everyone else. I mean, you get up way earlier than I do, so I know you have your time as well.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, I've been doing that for years. That's RV life, you know, it's just natural. But when you start that early you are beating everybody, you know. I would use David Goggins.
Speaker 3:what he would say but it's kind of the profanity is pretty good. But yeah, you've said it's kind of the profanity is pretty good. Um, but yeah, it's, you've said it before. When the morning I feel like you know I can incorporate andy's but, oh my, having a brain fart, his tasks that he has, powerless, powerless, thank you, you know you have five tasks to hit for the day. You hit all five of them. You win the day. It's a w. You can hit all five of them. You win the day. It's a W. You can hit all five of those tasks before people get up in the morning and you have the rest of the day to do what you can do family, whatever.
Speaker 3:But it's all about prioritizing it. And who knows what dumpster fire could happen later on in the day. I'll use Heidi Summers, for example. She was on Ed Milet's podcast here recently and Ed asked her is there ever a good day? She's like oh, do you mean putting out fires? The days I don't put out fires, she's like maybe two or three a year. So it's like you know that's owning a business, that's what comes with it. But prioritize, prioritize, prioritize that's the main word, you know yes, so let's get into our top five here yes and you were just saying the word number one.
Speaker 1:Um, you know we're gonna identify our priorities and for me that starts with just identifying what's most important to you, and I talked about my family. To me it comes down to planning. And when you don't plan, you really do plan but you plan to fail. And I am obsessed with Nick Bear has a phrase forward, backwards planning, and I just think if you think in advance of what you want to do, what you need to do, you can reverse engineer your day to set yourself up for success.
Speaker 1:And I think that starts the night before. You know I'll sit down, I'll pull up my calendar, I'll write in my journal um, that has a, a calendar within it. You know what's on the calendar that day and then I just go backwards from there. I need to be, I'll do my 4 am to 7 am and then I need to be showered and ready to go. I got to be at this location by 8. You can start to fill in those gaps, but if you don't lay it all out there the night before and then start to backwards plan into it, you're just setting yourself up for going wherever the day takes you, which that's not winning the day.
Speaker 3:And another thing that's huge that people fire and overlooking is you writing it down. That's a lot. I've been doing that a lot more. And, yeah, once you write it down, it's, it's there, it's up here, but, um, you've been doing it, You're wired yourself, you know it's.
Speaker 3:I dude, I'm like a kid. I get my clothes ready for the day, I get my workout clothes ready for the morning and I get my what I'm going to wear for the day in the morning and I have my meals. I cook my meals the night before and have them ready to go. So once I just grab, throw it in my bag, I make my coffee in the morning, and that's pretty much it. It's just you're wired that way. It's a set routine and we'll eventually get down to that. That's one of them. It's setting a routine and I'm a monotonous person. I can do the same thing over and over and over, Um, so it's kind of benefit. Everybody's different though, so, but that's a benefit to me. I, you know, I, I just do the same thing and you know it might not be the same time of the day, but I'm getting it done no matter what, and it's it's in the same order pretty much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, um yeah, go ahead, number two on the list setting boundaries, and so I'm gonna go back to my what I, what I struggle with, and that is, you know, with with my phone. So the boundaries are putting the phone away, put the phone in the closet, put the phone on the shelf. Um, I used to be an apple watch guy and I switched over to a Garmin. How did you do that?
Speaker 1:Because I always felt plugged in, always connected. People could call me, I could answer it on my watch, they could text, I could text back. Now, on the Garmin, I can see the text but I can't text back. So it's almost the best of both worlds, because I feel like I'm aware of what's going on and if it's a 911, I can obviously go and grab my phone, but if not, it's okay, I'm going to continue doing what I'm doing.
Speaker 3:You know, noted I'm coming, Garmin I'm coming. Sponsor us Right.
Speaker 1:But that was a boundary I had to set. And you know, again, it's something I kind of learned from my wife, cause she was an Apple watch person as well, and she would just take it off and put it in a drawer at the house and I'm like like damn, those are kind of expensive. Like why are you not? Why are you not wearing your?
Speaker 4:watch you. Gotta hit all your rings.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it keeps track of your sleep too.
Speaker 4:I've never done that, but it's not.
Speaker 3:I heard it's not very accurate. I mean it's almost like it's almost like any widget, right it's a.
Speaker 4:It gives you a baseline and a trend.
Speaker 1:And if that's what you're paying attention to then, you know that can be good data, but I mean if you wear 10 different things, are you?
Speaker 4:I like the aura ring a lot. I've heard good things about that one.
Speaker 1:Apple Watch has told me about my heart rate and it's changed so it's just, you know, to me, a big part of setting boundaries is unplugging and knowing what are the things that distract me from what's the most important, and then setting action to do something about that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's the most important and then setting action to do something about that? Yeah, and it's, it's the technology. That is that the distraction for me and um, like I said, it's getting away from that and you know, making sure I'm present for her and andrew when they're needing me and um, but yeah, that's, I feel like that I'm missing out, like getting stuff out, like posts and stuff like that. I, I overthink way too much about stuff like that and it's, it's just, it, just, you know it's non-stop and, like I said, you know, with the cell phone, it's just that's my biggest issue. What were you saying?
Speaker 4:you're about to chime in finish your thought no, that was it oh, um, I think the setting boundaries is, you know, creating when you set boundaries, and I'm really bad at it, especially for work, but you create stability by protecting your time and energy and saying nope.
Speaker 4:I yeah I need to leave by this time to pick up my son, or I am gonna do x, and by doing that you are again, um, just putting that out there because you have prioritized that. And then you, it's better when you need to say no and say you know what, I can't do that because you know you've identified what your main priorities are. I'm not saying that isn't, but it may not fit in at that time. It just made me think of a story of Nick Bear when he got hit by a car and it made him realize he needs to slow down.
Speaker 4:And about family and he's always just on the go doing things and you know, know, you hear that like life is precious, you don't know about tomorrow. And when you talk about like I need to do the poet, I need to do this and this and this, we're all that way. But when you start setting these like taking these actions and taking control of your life, then again you're the one navigating it, you're the one calling the shots as much as you can control. But that's kind of a if you really want to think about it in a reality, like snap back, say okay, you need to set your priorities right.
Speaker 3:I feel like with Bear, he just got at a level you get this high and I feel like he you know that was just a wake-up call and like, hey, I need to take a couple steps back here.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 3:You know and but yeah, once you you've been well, he's been doing it for eight years, I think and it's like you know, doing that consistently, like that, you are just locked in and, like I said, it's like getting a high off of it. You know you want more, you just want to keep going. But yeah, sometimes stuff like that it takes you to hey wake up and realize what you're doing. So, yeah, because he texted me when it happened, or when he posted on the story, right, it was wild.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he went right to his story, right after. I mean, he was in shock. I don't know if he was aware that he was even creating stories.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yep, insane. Thank God he was good.
Speaker 4:We talk about routine, routine. He's been in a routine. Yeah, that's, you know the next one yeah, number three.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we'll go right into it. Um, shoot, I'll start off with that, because I love routine. I love it. Um, why change something if it keeps working? You know, um, almost go right here. You know, success isn't built on motivation, it's built on discipline. Why change something if it keeps working? Almost go right here. Success isn't built on motivation, it's built on discipline and systems. And it took me, and I feel like I'm still not where I need to be for routine-wise, because obviously there's going to be more stuff that I'm going to add in, but getting that routine dialed in and staying with it and you hit that sweet spot, then you're going to hit that sweet spot, then you're going to hit that high that you need to, you know, dial it back, and just you know be present with everything that you're doing.
Speaker 1:But yeah, um, what about I? Just I think your, your routines can be incredible for aligning your goals with your daily actions, for aligning your goals with your daily actions. I think the hard part is and again, another struggle for me is that I've been a creature of habit for a long time and routine can almost become like religious to me and there's days when you know if my day doesn't go exactly how I want that routine to go, like my, if I don't hit my morning routine, or it happened before a podcast a couple weeks ago, or stuff happened in the morning I wasn't able to do what I needed to do and I was all messed up and uh. So I think that that's, that's. Um, you know I'm the same way as you. Like I can eat the same things every day.
Speaker 1:Um, you know the people who work out with me in the morning, like a lot of times they see me almost in the same workout clothes every day because I just over the years of being in a locker room in that environment, you go work out, take your clothes off, you put them on a laundry loop. They get washed. The next day you get the same ones back, like that that's just yeah, what you do, and so I'm.
Speaker 1:I'm the same way, like I don't care I'm. I am wearing the clothes. I'm wearing because I'm going to get my workout in. I'm eating the clothes. Or I'm eating the clothes, I'm eating the food I'm eating because of the results it's going to get my workout in. I'm eating the clothes, I'm eating the food I'm eating because of the results it's going to get me. That's part of routine. It's like making those little things that make a big difference, just part of your everyday life and who you are, and so I think creating those routines that align with your goals are crucial. I think where people can run into problems is when you have part of your routine that doesn't align and then you don't allow yourself the ability to pivot.
Speaker 3:Yep, that's the word, that's the big word right there, pivoting because it's going to happen, so you can keep going.
Speaker 1:Sorry, no, I mean it just takes us right into number four, and that's adaptability.
Speaker 3:Yep.
Speaker 1:And going off of creating the routines. It's you have to have the mindset of bend, but don't break Yep. And so there are days when I don't win the morning and get the things done and it does trigger me in a way to where, like, I don't show up as my best self and I don't like not being my best self, but I always know, like if it's important to me, I'm going to get it done, yeah. So, yes, didn't get it done in the morning, but I'll get it done at some point. I think it took me a while to and I'm not there yet, um, but I've matured over time to know that, like that doesn't need to ruin my day. The whole day is not over, it's not. Like you know, people run into that with diets yeah or nutrition, like they.
Speaker 1:They go to a birthday party and they eat a piece of cake. Well then that friday night turns into saturday and saturday turns into sunday and before you know it, you go two weeks of eating crap, be all because of one slice of cake. Like cool, enjoy yourself, get back on track. Yeah, but when people become so religious about it, it's like the world's ending because they broke routine I felt like that a couple times, not gonna crumble cookie.
Speaker 3:Um, I was gonna. You know, I said this to you guys the other night adapt or die. Um, it's basically like a philosophy that underscores the necessity of, you know, growth, change, resilience in the face of challenges. Um, I actually heard that from um a friend of mine named Adrian. He's a powerlifting coach and I remember him saying that and he explained it to me. And, you know, and it's basically what we're talking about is adapting, you know, making that pivot from anything that comes across, and, yeah, it's that personal development and surviving, you know.
Speaker 4:I think what's really important of this number four is that you have to understand that balance is different at every stage in life. You have to understand that balance is different at every stage in life. So, yes, you know, you may have we're all all three of us are very routine and, you know, do the same things for forever. But over time, as you have kids and you know different things, we have to recalibrate and go to recalibrate and go okay, how do I rearrange again, prioritize to continue my routines? But I need the addition of this. You know I got a puppy that's going to take extra time.
Speaker 4:You know, looking at cause life's gonna, you're not going to have smooth sailing and every stage of life, every year, whatnot, you get a, a new job. Things are going to change and so you have to remember that one. You can, you, it's okay to be flexible as your life evolves. Um, because I think you know, in our group there's a lot of parents and they're like you know, we're running here, we've got baseball tournaments and we got to run this one to soccer and we've got to go here and there and there.
Speaker 3:That mom mode.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I mean, you know one parent it's, we've got to go here and there and there. Mom mode, yeah, I mean, you know one parent it's tag team, I'll go here, you go there, and so that all comes down to that prioritizing your day, like there's probably an hour in between games, go walk outside, or you know, like just understanding how to adapt is key.
Speaker 3:I feel like there's a lot of people that don't like to like change.
Speaker 4:Yeah, uh, no, okay, um, but you learn to adapt, yeah, so yeah, I guess it's.
Speaker 1:it's almost it's kind of the best of both worlds for me. Like I love routine, I, I can do those things over and over again. I love change, like you know, I and I think part of that is like growing up, we moved like almost every two to three years so I lived in like eight different houses growing up. And then you know we've heard the story of my NFL career Natalie and I moved, I want to say, since her and I have been married, we've moved like 11 times in our almost 10 years of marriage. Like so it just doesn't bother me, I guess, and I think doing the same thing for a long period of time, um, outside of like my you know, fitness and those type of routines like I get bored really easily.
Speaker 1:Um, I think that's been part of the blessing within my career journey of being able to take on something different, new challenges, almost like every couple of years. I think it just keeps you engaged, it keeps you challenged and keeps you learning something new the routine and then being adaptable to the change and, you know, finding whatever that balance looks like to make it become your best self.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I feel like it's just like you know your workouts, your body gets immune to doing the same thing over and over. It's time to switch it up. You know it's a plateau, you know I feel like it's the same as that, um, but yeah, it's, you nailed it pretty much. Where were?
Speaker 1:you guys.
Speaker 3:Number five.
Speaker 1:Goodness.
Speaker 3:Consistent, stay consistent. You don't need to make massive changes overnight. Small daily actions compound over time. Just win the day. Stack wins on top of each other. Just win the day you. You're not going to win them all and it's okay, you know reset from it. Yeah learn from it. Reset and tomorrow's a new day yeah, I think one.
Speaker 1:One thing I highlighted here was that you know, people, our society, the way we've been trained and wired is that we're looking for the quick fix and it just never works that way and so, like, like every time, I do 75, 75 hard, even now, right now, like I don't notice really any differences until once I get through, like week three, like right now I think we're on day what 20, 23, 24, 24. Like I think this morning's the first day I got up and that I was even up any weight down.
Speaker 1:Like not that I'm in this for weight loss, but it's just kind of naturally happens throughout this journey. But it was like the scale hadn't moved and we're, you know, over over three weeks into this thing. So it takes time and that's why, if you're looking for the quick fix, you're on the wrong journey. It never works out well and even the things that do come quick usually don't last. We've seen that with fad diets and different crazy things that people do, but nobody wants to wait the long term. Same thing with your bank account, right?
Speaker 1:yeah you put you know a few bucks into an account and it doesn't seem like much, but that compound interest over time when you hit 50, 60, 70 years old, holy smokes. And I think it's the same thing with anything we do nutrition, health, family faith, like you do it over and over again little bit, little bitty pieces over time yeah it equals great results I feel like we've been wired for convenience.
Speaker 3:I mean, look at mcdonald's, look at amazon, you know, look at doordash amazon.
Speaker 4:Sorry, quick, funny story with amazon. Andrew needed a shirt last weekend and it was saturday. I was like, oh, I gotta go. And um no, it was friday. He wanted me to. Um, just get off, amazon. I was like buddy, it's not gonna get here in time. He's like what do you mean? It's amazon and I'm like it's not it's not.
Speaker 4:It's not overnight anymore yeah, that sometimes we're not in Seattle, where a drone's just gonna drop in our yard so, um, I have to actually physically go to a store and get it for you, and then you kept fighting it on. I'm like Amazon's not a choice. So that's what kids know they they have to have. They know that they just get it right away.
Speaker 1:So yeah, like you said, we've been wired that way through devices and social media and all the things, but also just human nature. We were designed and developed to survive and so we're always looking for the easiest possible way to do anything, and that's the that's what it's all about. That's what we fight and combat every single day to take steps in the right direction, Because if you do the easy things, you're you're not going to get the results.
Speaker 3:No, no, I have something that I have to look for and I'll say it later. But about taking the easy path, you'd think you'd want to take the hard path because obviously the results are going to come if you take the hard path, because everybody takes. If you look at a task list, is everybody going to take the easy task first or are they going to take the hard task first? Majority of them is going to take the easy task first or are they going to take the hard?
Speaker 3:task first. Majority of them is going to take the easy task first Knock them out.
Speaker 4:Yes. So why wouldn't you take the hard one first? You know, I think kind of the last point on that one is you know you talk about. Here's my routine starts with, you know, three hours at the beginning of the day and some people might look at that and be like there's no way I can carve out three hours for myself. But you know it starts little. Those new habits. You know you wake up, everyone wakes up, and then when you wake up, read for 10 minutes versus waking up and getting on your phone.
Speaker 4:So, just starting small, wake up, go down and stretch, you know, just start with five minutes, 10 minutes, whatnot, and it's then it just creates those habits and you're realizing, oh, I do have time and you know. So I just think of the people where they're like oh, it seems so easy for you guys to talk about because you do it all the time. What about people who are starting from scratch again and just build that discipline by just at least starting something you already do, tack onto that and then just recommit daily? It's an. Every day is a new opportunity to take that action and take control and see how that works for you and you'll see those wins and go okay. Well, I'm going to keep doing this.
Speaker 3:Well, if they want to get out of bed and they're on the phone all the time, when they first get up, put it in a different room. That'll get your ass out of bed. That's a start. I'm not going to lie my phone's right next to me.
Speaker 4:That's my alarm yeah.
Speaker 1:But people talk about. I don't have the time Right, and so we talk about perspective right. We all have the same amount of time, and I know you had a story to go along with this.
Speaker 4:Yes, um, well. So I saw a post. It was actually in the group and it said they, the person, didn't create it, they, they posted it, but they said it's's. You have 168 hours in a week 56 for sleeping good for those people 40 for working I don't know what type of job you have and then 72 hours left over. Still, if you're, you know, adding more for work and tacking on, you have about 72 plus or minus hours left over. So put that in perspective and you go okay.
Speaker 4:If you can't find three to five hours to work on your health, the problem isn't your schedule, it's your priorities. And one thing I want to touch with each one of the action items that we talked about was don't forget about yourself. We talked at the very beginning about you can't pour from an empty cup. I'm the worst at always saying like I put everyone before me, don't worry about it, I don't need to do something, and then look, I'm burnt out and I can't do anything. So make sure that you are a priority and you are scheduling yourself, starting at five minutes, 10 minutes, whatnot and see how your life will change, because you do have time. Oh, the Starbucks CEO.
Speaker 2:Yeah, go right into it. Everyone's like yeah, I was waiting. I was like is she?
Speaker 3:gonna go into this or what.
Speaker 4:So you know, again we talk about routines and there was an article that came out with the new Starbucks CEO and he went through his daily routine and actually I had it up. It was like he starts, for where is it now? I'm not going to find it.
Speaker 3:And before you get into it, everybody's different. This man has earned it too.
Speaker 1:So he's earned this routine. We're going to debunk this whole thing.
Speaker 4:Because, everybody's different.
Speaker 3:Because, like, go ahead and look for it.
Speaker 4:I got it.
Speaker 3:But the 168 hours in a week, first of all, 40 hours to go to work. Let me tell you something Entrepreneurs are working like 90 hours a week, almost 100 hours a week. So there's 60 right off of 72 hours left. So just to give you an idea. This is just for that's like a baseline right there for that yeah, for that one yeah that's maybe for a high school kid at working at martin's good for them.
Speaker 4:Yeah, um, you know. But for his routine, his morning, again 5 45. I'm not gonna go through his entire, but like he's got morning, day, evening, um, he, he goes to the office at 8 30, but but 5.45, wakes up, drinks coffee, reads the news, works out, blah, blah, blah. Then his first staff meeting's at 10. Again, he's the CEO of Starbucks. He can plan his day, but getting into the evening at 6.30, which I'm surprised he gets home by 6.30, helps prepare dinner with the family, walks the dog with his family, then watches TV Like he's got those out. But you look, he has that's a priority to him.
Speaker 4:Like he shuts his phone off. That's what he does. I've known quite a few people, but again they're in those C-suite positions that have that and we talked about. You know everyone's different and I had a friend who's in the group too. We do have a community group. Please join. It's really cool that people can ask questions, get advice, recipes, all that stuff. So we'll have all that links for that.
Speaker 1:That's the group we're talking about.
Speaker 4:It's a great community and. But someone was saying you know, when a 20 year old fitness person's like I don't understand why people don't have time to work out Like they have all this time, I'm like, well, your time and my time are very different, but again, it goes down to prioritizing.
Speaker 3:They're not an adult yet.
Speaker 1:I want to debunk this entire thing. Oh, right out the gate. So you know, eight hours of sleeping a night is great and I love that for anyone who can do it. I hope everyone strives for that.
Speaker 3:That is a goal. Yeah, it should be a goal.
Speaker 1:It's very unrealistic for most people.
Speaker 3:Like.
Speaker 1:I'm very happy when I get six hours of sleep a night and maybe I've become accustomed to that. I've been trained to do that and I can function off of that. But it's more realistic. Work can be 60, 70, 80. I don't keep track of hours because, like I said, I feel like I'm always kind of on depending on what's going on and we all have different positions and I think where so many people fall into this trap on social media because people post their highlights right, I got up this morning, I did meditation and then I went and rubbed my feet in the grass and then I got in the ice tub and
Speaker 3:then, get ready with me in the sauna and I'm like what?
Speaker 1:like this is so fake come get ready with me.
Speaker 4:Yeah, not, it's not applicable I hope you two both do a get ready with me.
Speaker 1:Hey, I will do a get ready with me, absolutely.
Speaker 3:GoPro on everything, set the camera up, get out of bed. Ah, damn it, I got to do a retake. Hold on.
Speaker 1:But I think it sets people up for failure because they watch these and, of course, those are the type of life they want, you know, like the Starbucks CEO, yes, yo yes he's earned that.
Speaker 1:He's a C-suite for a multi-billion dollar company. Back up 15 years, 20 years ago, that was not his routine, that was not his life. He was grinding, just like you and me, and probably waking up early and staying up late and putting in the time. And that's real life. At some point, right, we all strive to get there. We're not there yet, most people aren't there yet. So you have to stop looking at these. You're looking at the one percent of the one percent, right? That's not the way that's. Those are great dreams and ambitions, but it's not real life. You have to put in the work now if you want to get there. You don't get there by doing that routine as a 20 year old kid that's why they need to stop posting that stuff.
Speaker 3:Seriously stop posting false stuff like that.
Speaker 4:It's like you said the one, but yeah be, like hey, this is how I got here, yeah, yeah exactly the backstory. Exactly share the whole thing, not just a little bit of it or this is what I strive for today, and my day did not go as planned, and here's what I did to prioritize and rearrange people like tips like that. Help me. Don't just show me how cool it is. How did you get there right?
Speaker 1:show me how you did it well, it's a secret, but it for for $1.99.99. I will tell you everything you need to know $9.97 if you pay that today.
Speaker 3:Oh my goodness, andy says that all the time. You think Andy gets eight hours of sleep.
Speaker 4:No, I don't know if he sleeps.
Speaker 3:No, the dude doesn't.
Speaker 1:But again and this is what I have this conversation all the time with people, it's you have to understand there's people who want to make. You know, I want to make a million dollars, okay. Well, here's what it takes to do that, and this is the the burdens and the things that you have to carry. I don't want that. Well then, stop saying you want a million dollars. It's pretty simple.
Speaker 3:They change their mind when you tell them the timeline right no, so good, buff bunny again.
Speaker 4:I listened to that this morning with ed mylet and he basically said like did you go to fashion school? No, she was going to be a doctor. Do you know anything about? You know from one to ten. Do you know anything about fashion industry before you started this?
Speaker 4:nothing she's all herself taught and she's like all because she, you know, just wanted, she didn wanted, she goes. She didn't wear pants, she, she grew up in a very small town in alaska, so she wore dresses and very traditional 2 000 people and she's very sheltered osceola yeah, so she didn't, um technically like, wear like quote-unquote pants um until she was like 14 years old and, coming from the small town, didn't know anything, and she's created this nine figure business.
Speaker 3:She's very intelligent.
Speaker 4:In eight to 10 years.
Speaker 3:And her and Christian are very humble and nice Because she was grinding and she's like.
Speaker 4:I was in a one bedroom apartment where I had to figure out. You know I got one plug that I got to make coffee and then I have to figure out. You know I got one plug that I got to make coffee and then I have to unplug it and I want to make, you know, oatmeal or my microwave, and she's like. So I started from. You know she showed all of her struggles and but she knew nothing.
Speaker 3:You could figure it out. Yeah, she basically started with like nutrition stuff, you know showing how much weight. Yeah, well, no, she started with like nutrition stuff, you know, showing how much weight.
Speaker 3:Yeah Well, no, she started with like how much weight she lost and like her her diets and girls started messaging her and asking her for them and her plans, and then she threw out a t-shirt sold out within minutes. She's like, oh well, I'll just put the money right back in and order more. That's how it started and she is very you know with her community. She's like, hey, what do you guys want? What kind of clothing do you guys like? What's your you know? What style leggings do you like? She asks them what they want and she gets it made. That's easy.
Speaker 4:Prioritizing.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I have two last things, and, jake, I'll let you close us out here.
Speaker 1:I have two last things and, jake, I'll let you close us out here, but one is at my company we have these things called LAPs, which is a leadership action plan, and basically it's a two-sided card where you have the ability to put work goals on one side and personal goals on the other side. And I had an interaction with an individual probably about a year ago, where they were sitting in my office, we were having a one-on-one and we were just chatting and I asked them about their LAP and they're like well, that's the thing is, um, I haven't really filled mine out yet because I don't really have time when we're here at work. And I was like my head almost exploded because I'm like if, if the only time you're allocating to write these things down and improve, you're never going to get better, like, and then that was that's exactly what I told this individual was. I said do you think if I only worked on myself during working hours, do you think I would be any better? Well, probably not. And I'm like it's the same thing.
Speaker 1:You're here at your job for eight hours or whatever it is to do a job. What you do of yourself, that's on you outside of working hours. That's where you get the advantage. That's where you take of working hours. That's where you get the advantage, that's where you take the next steps. That's where you pass the competition. It's not within the eight hours of the day that you're doing your job, and so I just thought that was really interesting. I think that can hit with some people of like you have to do the work on your own outside of your job if you want to take the next next steps, whether that's personally or it's within your career yeah and I gotta share this, this.
Speaker 1:I don't know if this is a quote or a poem, but I came across this about six months ago and it's literally become the focal point of my life and I'll read it to you guys. It's called you may have heard it before, but it's uh, it's called the master of the art of a master in the art of living, and it goes like this, it says a master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing to himself. He always appears to be doing both and I, man, the first time I heard that, it like rocked me, that hits, because I'm like that's.
Speaker 1:I want to get to that point where, like people, like man like I can never tell, like if brax is working or hanging out, or because he always seems like happy he's flamboyant, and no, I'm joking, I'm joking, I'm joking you know whether that's like when I'm spending time with my family and maybe I'm stressed out of my mind but like I'm not, because I feel like I'm doing what I'm called to do, and if you're being fulfilled in what you're doing people you don't know is he working or playing? Yeah, and I just, I absolutely love that.
Speaker 3:And that's a good one.
Speaker 1:I mean man you just stop right there.
Speaker 3:I can't cover that. Basically, at the end of the day, taking control of your life doesn't happen overnight. This is going to take time. It happens with small steps, stacking wins every day. It's owning your time, setting the boundaries and making the choices that align with your life and that you want to build, investing in yourself and finding the energy, focusing on that and the purpose to thrive. But, like I said, it takes time. It's not going to happen overnight and it's taking action. That is the big thing is taking action, and that's it. That is the big thing is taking action, and that's it. That's the main thing. Take action.
Speaker 3:But with that, I wanted to say this earlier, before we started. But we are trying to hit a goal here. Of how many subscribers I have, a certain amount that I want to hit. It's huge because you guys know how I work. But if you guys just take a second, if you guys like this episode and it hits, you guys hit the subscribe, share it. We really appreciate it. We're trying to get this thing to take off and, yeah, I really appreciate you guys listening to episodes and hearing feedback. I mean we hear it daily. Braxton's getting messages. I mean we pretty much all are. But yeah, hell of an episode this is. This is a good one and that's all I got. Man appreciate you guys until next time see you next week.
Speaker 3:Yes, we're out of here, thank you.
