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Resilient Minds & Thriving Communities: The Growth Equation
Ep. 65 Resilient Minds & Thriving Communities: The Growth Equation
What happens when you surround yourself with individuals who push you to be better, hold you accountable, and share your core values? Join us on the Go All In podcast as we uncover the transformative power of accountability groups. Through inspirational stories like Nashley's, a dedicated nurse who conquered the 75 Hard challenge, we demonstrate the significant impact a supportive community can have on perseverance and resilience. We also dive into the inner workings of our own accountability group, where members from diverse industries meet monthly to focus on faith, family, fitness, and fortune, with accountability partners ensuring everyone stays on track.
Why settle for being the smartest person in the room? Explore the profound benefits of mentorship and learning from those who have walked the path before you. We share our personal journeys of seeking wisdom from mentors and provide practical tips on connecting with inspiring individuals, even if it means reaching out through social media. With stories of mentors like Andy Fursella, we highlight the potential of building meaningful relationships through persistence and shared passions, showing the value of having a network of diverse mentors across different facets of life.
Imagine being part of a community that encourages personal growth, even when your closest friends or family might not be on the same journey. We reflect on the importance of supportive accountability circles and how shared goals can strengthen relationships. Whether it's taking ginger shots instead of alcohol or braving outdoor workouts in the cold, our group’s camaraderie fosters motivation and resilience. As we look forward to an exciting year with future guests bringing valuable insights, we invite you to join us on this journey of growth and self-investment.
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You know it's trying to get yourself around those people and learn from them, because you've seen what they've built. I want to do the same thing, so you want to learn from the best.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the Go All In podcast. I'm Braxton Cave.
Speaker 1:I'm Jake Fine. This is a show that's all about pushing limits, breaking barriers and chasing greatness in every aspect of life. We dive into the journeys of high achievers, share real stories of resilience and challenge you to give 100%. No excuses, no shortcuts. Let's lock in and get after it. This is Go All In.
Speaker 2:Go All In.
Speaker 1:And we're here, another episode.
Speaker 2:So topic number one today we're going to talk about building an accountability group, what that looks like, the challenges that come from that. You know how to choose that circle and what that looks like, you know. Cause we have a true belief that growth happens when you surround yourself with people who align with your core values and we spoke in depth on that, you know, in previous podcasts and really aligning with people who see life in the same lens. As far as being on a mission, obviously everyone's going to come at it from a different angle. So you don't want a bunch of yes, men around you that have the same ideas or tell you to keep doing the same things you're doing, but at the core of it, the foundation, you want people who align with your mission and your core values. And you know the first piece of this, you know, is that support function and finding a group of people who show up for you, even when it's inconvenient. And before we get too far into the podcast, I got a shout out. You know in our community that we've been building.
Speaker 2:This is a shout out to Nashley Nashley, one of our members in the group. She is a nurse and she was working a 12-hour shift. You know she's currently working her way through 75 hard and didn't have an opportunity um to get her first workout in other than doing it in the stairwell at the hospital, which is amazing in itself that she had, you know, the perseverance to push through that and get that done. But she was working a 12-hour shift and so you know, working a 12-hour shift you get done, you're wore out, you're ready to just kind of cash it in. Well, met other members of our community, rallied around her, met her at her house and helped her get her 45-minute outdoor workout in together. I mean, that's what it's all about.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's awesome.
Speaker 2:It's special yeah.
Speaker 1:It's the support team. Basically, man, 12-hour shift Dude, I'm gassed. After that I'm ready to cash in and go, that's just. It's that mentality, you know. And having that support, you know it's having the people letting you know hey, you're not alone at this. So, yeah, just to hear that story was awesome. And, like I said, man just group, just seeing all the messages that we see daily, you know which is a lot. They communicate back and forth quite a bit. And just seeing them push through you know the messages that we see daily, you know which is a lot. They communicate back and forth quite a bit. And just seeing them push through, you know the ones that are doing 75 hard. And yeah, it's awesome to see. It's just, it can be done. You know it's, anybody can do it. It's just putting your mind to it and taking the action for it.
Speaker 2:And I mean, I know Nash nationally you know from the gym, and I think she probably would have got this done no matter what anyways, but the fact that people showed up for her and ensured that it got done and that she didn't fail the program is a pretty cool opportunity.
Speaker 2:You know the other pieces of this and we'll talk through it with some stories, but you got to find people who challenge you as we spoke on just a second ago that encourage you and that have high integrity, and so I want to tell the listeners out there a little bit about how I went about building the accountability. You know, I'm in part of a business accountability group that we started man four or five years ago and it started, honestly, as just a group of guys who were in, you know, leadership positions across different sectors of business and, you know, looking for a group of guys who you could bounce ideas off of and that kind of thing, and so we'd meet once a month for coffee and then we kind of started adding in books and, honestly, it started turning a little bit to a book club.
Speaker 1:Nothing wrong with that, nothing wrong with it. But.
Speaker 2:I think all of us wanted more of it All of us wanted more out of it.
Speaker 2:And so one of the guys who I had worked with for a long time by the name of Dustin Carr he's been a mental performance coach for me for a long time and I reached out to him and I was like, hey, we want to put some more parameters around this, you know, build a little bit of a curriculum, and so he has helped us really take this thing to the next level. And so every month we get together and we meet and it's all built off of our core values and our pillars, right Faith, family fitness and fortune. Fortune is whether that's career or whatever way you want to look at that. And so the way we build it out is that every month we go in and you put in what your commitments are for each of those pillars and then you get a partner accountability partner who's with you for that whole month and is there for you to challenge you and hold you accountable. And, honestly, it's been a game changer for all of us and it's pretty cool because it's um, and we all come from different industries.
Speaker 2:We got guys in private equity, guys in manufacturing, guys in the finance world, so you're getting all the different perspectives of the way people view going about business and life. But at the end of the day, we're all on the same mission and so we get we get an opportunity to bring a group of high level individuals together who are trying to make each other better and aren't satisfied with where they're at today, and so it's been a huge blessing for me. And you know just, a lot of people look at it like man, I, I don't know where to start Like how do I find, how do I create an accountability group? Find one or two people that you can start reading a book and going over what nuggets you took out of that book and how you can apply it and see where it goes, because this isn't ever where we probably thought this would be. But here we are today.
Speaker 1:And how much just to have to find those people that are on the same page as you, in the same circle, like that, and join a group like that. It's just it's very rare, I feel like, to find people that are you know they're going to give 100% doing that and you know it's just like our accountability group, you know, for the podcast, and it's crazy how many people are in that and just are like taking that first step to start the year off and how much. It's crazy how many people are in there and just are like taking that first step to start the year off and how much it's grown and it's just it's awesome to see and I just feel like it's just going to get better and better the more we do it and the longer it goes, I feel like so right, and the other thing I would challenge people with on this is that you have to pull in people to this group who will challenge you.
Speaker 2:I mean, that is one of the most important things to me. You know something that I've my whole life right I've always enjoyed and loved being around people older than me, like even when I was a kid. I remember being in high school and like hanging out at my buddy's houses and their parents would have friends over and I would always gravitate towards being around their parents just because I loved hearing like the stories and it was interesting learning about what they did for a living and just the things you can learn from people who've been through it before you. And I love the mantra of like I live by if I'm the smartest person in the room, I'm in the wrong room yeah like that.
Speaker 2:That should never be the case, at least not for more than like five minutes, right, and people like, well, you went to notre dame, that doesn't matter right there I'm not the smartest guy in any room that I put myself into, and if I am, either I built the wrong team, I'm surrounding myself with the wrong people, or I'm sitting at the wrong table because you got to constantly be learning from different people that are smarter than you and have different life experiences.
Speaker 1:Reminds me of a quote don't be the smartest person in the room. Be in a room that inspires you to grow. And it's funny you brought that up because that was one of my quotes that I had about this and it. I mean it's true and you know. It's just like you know, when you play sports when you're little, when they see the ability that you have at a certain age, you're not getting better playing against the same age people. You want to go against people that are older than you who've been there, and you're going to get better by surrounding yourself with older kids in sports. So that's another way to look at it, too, what you're talking about.
Speaker 2:So yeah, I mean, and another you know tool or tip that you can in doing this is by finding mentors yeah and so this is something that I think you've done a really good job of, and I think people get intimidated, like, like I don't, I don't know anyone.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Right, and so tell the listeners how you've kind of gone about finding mentors.
Speaker 1:Um, well, sliding in their DMs.
Speaker 1:I mean, what's the? You know? Were you going to get no response or no? And luckily, you know I've. I'll use Andy Fursella, for example. I've followed him and listened to his podcast for 10 years and watched him grow, you know, first form to what it is today, and he follows me now. He follows my brand and I've been to a few of his engagements speaking engagements, which is very rare because he doesn't speak much and Jackie's gone with me to one or a couple actually that he spoke at.
Speaker 1:But the one that really sets, you know that tops. It is when he was in Utah for Limitless Society, one that we went to. I took many pictures of him and tagged him and he actually responded he's like I saw you, I saw your Be Better shirt, because he has my apparel, because I sent him an Emily apparel and we had a conversation. I was doing 75 hard at the time, so I was doing my outdoor ruck and I was messaging him back and forth. And yeah, I mean we've messaged back and forth many, many times, which I will bring up a story that I have about him here later.
Speaker 1:But yeah, it's basically what I did. I'll slide in their DMs. You know I've seen what they've built, where they've been, and you know Rob Bailey's one, ben Newman, which who you know is another, been to one of his events. But yeah, I've been to a few events to see. You know, it's trying to get yourself around those people and learn from them because you've seen what they've built. I want to do the same thing, so you want to learn from the best. So, but yeah, it's that's basically what I did. I slid in their DMs. I'm like that's the lucky thing about today having social media thing, about today having social media, and you never know what you're going to run into, because you get a response and you stay in that communication with that person, which I am with Andy. So, for how busy that man is, you know it's cool that you get responses from him once in a while.
Speaker 2:So yeah, I mean another trap. You know that I think people fall into cause. I fell into it for a long time. Myself is like I was. I was searching for a mentor who was everything that I wanted to be, in every facet of life. It's not possible, right.
Speaker 1:Cause we're all different.
Speaker 2:And so once I finally started gravitating towards, all right, I had, there was someone in business. I want that person to be my mentor. There was someone in, you know, fitness. There's someone in faith, like I started finding all these different mentors, and now I have. I have a ton of mentors, and from all different walks of life and the the trap of that you're going to find this one perfect person. The odds of them. One wanting to mentor you right, that's a piece of it. But two, to find the perfect person well, one, there's no perfect person out there right. But when I was able to start gaining experience from the people who were really good in these different areas, that's when I was able to make the most growth, and it's something we talk about within our business accountability group. Right, our four pillars. We're all in different phases of those, right.
Speaker 2:So what we challenge each other on is like if someone's doing really well in this aspect, in this pillar, get with them, talk to them, have those conversations, pick their brain. Like you've got to have people in all different areas of your life to be able to bounce ideas off of, because otherwise you know someone may be really good in fitness but you're talking about business and they don't know a damn thing about it, and that can lead you to a wrong path that's so true and it's funny, I was you know, god's got a funny way of giving you messages right when you need to hear them.
Speaker 2:And just this morning I was, you know, sitting at church and Dr Bob was was preaching and he says you want a better life, Find a better example. And I'm like man, I got to write that down because that is so good, it's right on.
Speaker 1:I won't write that one down. That's it, because it's true. You know, and, like we said before, it's who you surround yourself with and you become the average of five people you spend the most time with. You know, jim Rohn said that and you know you've also heard if you hang around five smokers, you become the six. So until you surround yourself with those people and um, but I mean who is your mentor?
Speaker 2:I mean your top one, that you I mean, man, I don't, I don't know that. I can just say that I have a top mentor. I mean I'd have to go like space by space, you know, and you know like I look at someone you know in the fitness realm, just no different than how you just pointed out with Andy. Like you introduced me to Nick Bear probably three years ago, you know I think Nick does a lot of really cool things when it comes to business, obviously, fitness. It's been really cool to see him grow in his faith journey as well as his family Now that he's got two kiddos.
Speaker 2:when we started following him he didn't have any kids, so to watch him do that. You know you talk about Andy. When it comes to that, I resonate a lot more with Sal. You know similar backgrounds, right Both of us come from athletic journeys that didn't last nearly as long as we wanted them to, but I learn a lot from him, just in how he you know he loves his wife.
Speaker 2:The way he talks about Raquel is amazing to me. The priority of his family is incredible, and then it's also cool to see some of the behind the scenes of how he holds the team accountable.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I highly recommend you going to see that dude speak.
Speaker 2:I would love I had a trip to first form planned.
Speaker 1:It didn't end up working out um, but I gotta get it back on the calendar because I would love to get out there with those guys it's very rare that he speaks, but he's starting to do more and more because he's really, he is really good, really good at speaking, like when I went to Ben's event last year, dude, he just set the room, set the tone, and I was like man, I felt everything. And it's like when you go to Ben's event, which was at First Form I'll be going in April again this year you're in the auditorium where all the employees are at and they have their morning meetings and we basically did a morning meeting, just like how First Form did ended it. We are First Form. I mean, we yelled it, that's how they end their meetings and we did that. And I was like, dude, this is like what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1:But yeah, when he spoke, man, I'm telling you, sal is amazing speaker and I feel like he doesn't think he is, but the man is, he's really good at what he. But, yeah, he's another mentor of mine that you know. I love what he does and how he's a family man and a father and just every. He fills all those pillars and, yeah, the whole Frisella family. Dude, they are phenomenal people, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah and I think you know my parents have played a large role obviously in my journey my pastor growing up, mark Beeson, who passed away a few years ago. He played such an integral role in my life for a long, long time.
Speaker 1:Such a good dude too. It's funny.
Speaker 2:Sal just posted the other day hey, post the first picture that comes up in your favorites, and no cheating. So I go into my photos. And it was a picture of me and Mark Beeson on a recruiting visit in Notre Dame.
Speaker 1:Oh nice.
Speaker 2:And so he was an incredible mentor for me, from a tiny kid to the day he passed.
Speaker 2:He was just an incredible man, a tiny kid. To the day he passed, he was just an incredible man. Um, and then you know, across business I have, I have a million mentors. You know just I love picking people's brain and you know, obviously, like I've been fortunate with my background, with going to an aim and playing football at a high level, that I probably get more yeses than the average person when I reach out. But like I'm never just like you earlier, I'm never afraid to reach out because the worst thing they can say is no or not respond at all. But most people who are super successful, they want to pass that on and they want to take the next generation and teach them the things they've learned so that it can continue.
Speaker 2:That's legacy 100%, that's what it's all about learn so that it can continue.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's that's legacy 100 it's all about. Yeah, it's just. I just feel like you know that, like I said before, it's like I reached out. I was like you know I'm gonna reach out because there's I mean, there's no turning back. I want to do this.
Speaker 1:This is my vision and you know, like I've used rob bailey for an example, because he has an apparel brand and that he's built which you know, him and Dana, dana has that flag. No fail is just going off and just the way he does his content, I mean he does everything and he has the same kind of vision that I think of my brand. So it's like I want to be coached by him because he does coaching and he's been there and he does many things he does, you know, real estate. I mean this dude has done a lot of businesses. So it's like you never even thought, just looking at rob, you know he does that. I mean rock star, all of it, you know.
Speaker 1:So that's one thing I have on my goals is being coached by him. Because he's been there, I know I could learn a lot from him, you know, with apparel and uh, yeah, he's, he's another one I've reached out to and, like I said, man, you never know if they're going to respond or not, but they do. So I'm telling you guys, take, if you see someone that you are wanting to mentor you, or you see the same direction you want to go with them, I highly recommend you just send them a message because, like I said, all they can say is no or you won't get a response.
Speaker 2:Yeah, shoot your shot.
Speaker 1:Exactly.
Speaker 2:Got to. Let's talk a little bit about what it looks like to expand your network. You know we were having a conversation earlier of, like I don't necessarily love networking events, right, because you know you look at some of your typical networking events and it's hey, let's meet up for a cocktail hour, or you know that to me, can there be some benefit from it? Yes, of course. But I think what's more important is that you look at the quality of the events you're going to versus the quantity and just trying to show up to everything that you possibly can. And I know you talked on a little bit earlier but share with the group about, you know, some of the events that you've been to and the networking that you've been able to do and some of those experiences.
Speaker 1:Yeah, um, you know I, before we started, I talked about, you know I went to Limitless Society, uh, Keaton Hoskins, who basically, you know the Diesel Diesel Brothers if you guys have seen that on A&E I think it was on A&E basically they're all in Utah and he had an event at his airplane hangar and you know it's only 200 people.
Speaker 1:So I'm like I'm doing it, so it's very small, but the speaker lineup was insane. You know, andy was one of them and that was actually the first time I seen him speak. And just, you know the people I met that day. You know Mike Krausen. He started Rise. He was part of the guys that started Rise Supplements. He started Coffees Over Cardio and now him and his wife, paula do like a coaching group for, like you know, business coaches and online coaches and stuff like that. Like you know business coaches and online coaches and stuff like that. But I got, you know, I met him, connected with him.
Speaker 1:Um, another one I met was, uh, his name's austin. He actually owns s force watches and gosh, he's gonna kill me for this his apparel that he has. Basically, he has an apparel brand that basically is based off of, like he's he's uh highly into marvel. You know the comics and stuff like that. So it's basically he's like power rangers involved. You know he's collabed with many, many. You know he's in collab with disney that was a big one he did. And you know I met him. He sat next to me. We connected and I still talk to him. We messaged back and forth um, his brands are taken off. It's just, you know, getting close to those people that you see that are building something and the how big their businesses are, and it's like you know I need to be next to these people.
Speaker 1:But yeah, being that that first one, that was like the one to be at because you know it's 200 people and you know Sean Whalen was one of them from Lions Not Sheep, he was there and a lot of people you know Christian Guzman was another. It's just people in the apparel industry. So I'm like, hey, I'm going to this because these are the people I need to surround myself with and you know, get some golden nuggets from them. And yeah, that was like probably the top engagement I've been to, jackie and I have. Actually we've gone to Arte, which is Ed Milet, andy Frisella. That's just a different kind of ballgame right there.
Speaker 1:I know she'll probably chime in on this too. She could say but the people that are in that room are obviously on the to you for an eight-hour, six-to-eight-hour day in the auditorium, just learning, taking notes and just connecting with each other. It's just being in the same circle of these people and how many connections we've made from that. I mean, that's the benefit of doing that. I know you talked about the coffee hour and stuff like that. I, that's the benefit of doing that, and you know, I know you talked about, you know, the coffee hour and stuff like that. I've never really done anything like that, like the chamber, if they do anything, but I've never done stuff like that. Those type of engagements, like I've been to, are the ones that I would highly recommend, you know, investing in.
Speaker 2:So yeah, I think there's. There's definitely levels to all of it right.
Speaker 2:Yes, you know, if you're very early on in the game, you know, going to some of those events or it's never a bad thing to meet more people I think there's something saying that's the only way to do it. But I think it is taking it to another level when you are putting your hard-earned dollars on the line for your growth versus just showing up to something for free. And so, yeah, I mean, there's always opportunities, there's always events, there's always events. But I would just say you got to be very careful with who you're surrounding yourself with, because it'll change you for the better or for the worse.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I'm going to go back from, you know, one of your little clips from our podcast, from our recent one Books are mentors too, cause, remember what you said, where you can learn from reading one full book, then you can. So that's another thing. Um, it's going to challenge your thinking and inspire action, and, uh, that's another thing you can think about. You know, books do a lot too, so I wanted to throw that in there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think you know you're also looking at it's. It's not just the, the community that you're like putting around yourself from the outside, it's also the team you're building from within. And I know some people will listen to this who are maybe entrepreneurs and very early on in the game, and they are the team Right.
Speaker 1:So what do you have to do? You got to invest in yourself.
Speaker 3:Yeah, right, yeah are the team right?
Speaker 1:So what do you have to do?
Speaker 2:You got to invest in yourself, right? You know, like you said, the books, the people like. That's how you grow yourself to the point that, at some, at some point in time, your business is going to grow and then you're going to start building the team around you. I think it's a pretty cool opportunity as an entrepreneur that you get to kind of handpick that group you're surrounding yourself with as you're building.
Speaker 2:It gets much more challenging when you're in maybe more of a corporate structure where you're jumping into, maybe leading, a group of 300 or more. That takes a lot of time and effort to change culture, but it starts with you when you're leading a group. Right, you're setting the example of what this community is going to look like and what the expectations are yeah and that's a. It's a tall responsibility, but I don't think you get into leadership because you want something small yeah so it's.
Speaker 1:It's just that it's a great opportunity I mean, basically that's what I'm doing, you know, with my brand. It's just I wear all the hats right now, now, and thank God for YouTube and the internet, because back in the day there there wasn't any. So that's why I'm like thank goodness for this, because I've learned a lot self-taught myself from the internet, from YouTube and watching videos and how to's. It's just, you can get a lot of stuff, information, from the internet and learn from that. Um, but, like I said, you know, going to these events and learning from people that are same mission, same vision as you is a huge benefit, but you know it's an investment right for yourself.
Speaker 2:Youtube's incredible. Yeah, I mean, I taught. That's how I taught myself to play guitar Yep. I mean, I'm not great, trust me, but you can learn anything if you're just willing to put in the time. Grab a notebook, sit down and allocate the time to learn. Yep, that's the only way to do it.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm. I mean, I can't even tell you how many times I get frustrated because I do a lot of design on Photoshop and Adobe Illustrator for my apparel. It's like I'm still learning. I don't know how I was like, why didn't I just go to school to learn graphic design? But I'm self-teaching myself from YouTube. You know how-tos and stuff like that, and I'm getting there and now air is going off on her. Sorry about that, but yeah, I've learned a lot from you know from YouTube alone. So, but other than that, jack, how are you doing?
Speaker 3:I'm an official dog wrangler today.
Speaker 1:Goodness.
Speaker 3:Oh, my All right, I'm an official dog wrangler today. Goodness, oh my, all right. Um well, a couple things of like networking and different groups of um.
Speaker 3:Yep, this is a fun, fun time he's so nice today um, you know, I've done the chamber, I've done ypn, I've done all sorts of different things. But also, I think in business is like LinkedIn. I know people have different opinions about LinkedIn, but there's a mentor of mine I worked with probably oh my gosh, like 20 years ago, 15 years ago, when I was coming up in healthcare, and she's we always keep in touch, you know, talk, you know every six months or so. And you know, when I have career questions or feel stuck or whatnot, I reach out and she's you know, hey, why don't you go on LinkedIn? Here's a few businesses reach out and I just reach out and say, hey, I'm looking to expand my network.
Speaker 3:Well, you know like-minded people, would you mind like maybe we can have a conversation and people respond or people don't, and I've gained some good. You know a lot of people on linkedin. I'm like, wait, how did we meet? And it was because I just sent them a message. And those have been great, even down to like recruiters just having a simple conversation of hey, remember, you know, thanks for talking with me, and blah, blah, blah. But it's just continuing that conversation of people you meet.
Speaker 3:When we went to Ed Milet's the Power of One More book launch, we met people in line and ended up like going to a movie, like going to dinner. We never met these people before and again, it's those like-minded people that are same in your circle and we still talk to them today. Yeah so it's an incredible experience and you never know what I mean. You could gain just a friendship, or you could gain a person you know, be introduced to somebody you just you never know. So networking goes everywhere.
Speaker 2:Yeah, jackie, I got some feedback on you lately, you did? I was having a conversation with someone the other day about the podcast and they were like why don't we ever get to see Jackie? She's like the Wizard of Oz behind the screen. She's like Robin, yeah.
Speaker 1:Robin off of.
Speaker 2:Howard.
Speaker 1:Stern. They never showed her until like later down the road.
Speaker 2:So I said maybe we'll have to add another camera here so we can get Jack in the studio.
Speaker 1:Did you tell him why? Because she runs the cameras. Well, that's what.
Speaker 2:I said she's the one that makes this whole thing happen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, pretty much. She's a producer.
Speaker 3:Well, today I'm a dog wrangler. Yeah, you're everything I bet on your resume.
Speaker 1:Apologies for that. He's something else today Peloton enthusiast dog wrangler.
Speaker 3:Man Baseball mom.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:What about navigating challenges? I mean, we know that growth is never linear.
Speaker 1:Not a straight line.
Speaker 2:It's the ups, the downs. You know how do you lean on community to get through challenges. How do you lean on community to get through challenges.
Speaker 1:Well, I mean, first thing is you know it's reaching out to that community. You know they don't know what's going on. You know that's the first thing A lot of people are. They don't like to ask for help, which I'm one of them. I don't, I always just figure it out. But you know, having the community that we have, yeah, reaching out. It's just like what I said before. You know, sliding into Andy's DMs is just reach out to that person. But having the community is huge because it's the people that are in your circle. They're on the same mission as you. People that are in your circle they're on the same mission as you, same vision, and it's just a little. You know sometimes that fire underneath you goes out. They're going to light it for you, so it's good to have.
Speaker 2:I think a lot of people hold back from reaching out or having that conversation because they don't want to be vulnerable.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:But I love the quote that you know you never know when your transparency will lead to yours or other people's transformation, and I think I talked about on a previous podcast of like if you can't be transparent, then you're never going to know what's fully out there. But I think a lot of people have, you know, some scars from that. And again it goes back to who are you being vulnerable with.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know, if you got a great community of people around you that you can open up to, it's probably gonna be a pretty good thing. If you're doing it with a not so good community, things happen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, being transparency, being transparent, is key and yeah, like you said, it's having that community to be vulnerable with and uh, them opening up and you opening up to them, and that's it's very rare, I feel like, but you find those right people that are in there and that'll do that. It's it's it's awesome to have. Are you chiming in? Cause I saw you look at me. I was trying to. I don't want to interrupt.
Speaker 3:Taking a break of the wrangling. Um, I will be vulnerable and transparent. I had a really bad week. I had a really, really bad week and, um, you know it's very down and I had a few people reach out and I'm not. You know, I take a little bit to respond sometimes. I've got to just kind of let it set in.
Speaker 1:Always.
Speaker 3:There was one that reached out and you know it's. I appreciate that, I appreciate the that group because you know I may not say much back, but it's the fact that someone is, is thinking of you and knows you're going through a hard time. These people can say to fix it, but the fact that they're there, because sometimes your person, you're never going to listen to them and they can say all the right things, but you have to have other perspectives and I think that's really important of having those people you know, more people in your circle, because that either your you know one-on-one person isn't always going to be able to fix it. They try, but I really appreciated that community and holding me accountable too.
Speaker 3:Even I think on the group I saw someone say that they failed 75 hard. I think they were sick and people weren't like, oh, sucks to be you. It was a hey, you know you. You, you know you failed, but you know you can start over. Like it was still encouraging. It wasn't. You know, and I know, andy, it's not meant to be soft by any means, but we all understand what the consequences are and you know, but it was still.
Speaker 2:You have that group to go to because sometimes your family or whatnot is not on the same journey as you, and so to have people outside of that is comforting, and you at least know that you have somewhere to go yes yeah, I mean we can talk about not necessarily pertaining to 75 hard, but but I think just life in general when, when you're trying to get better and you're taking steps in that direction, but your family or your closest group isn't on the same path, it makes it very, very difficult.
Speaker 2:And I can think back to just using 75 hard as an example. The very first time I did it, back in 21,. My wife was pregnant and so it probably made it easier at that time, just because you know we weren't doing a whole lot. But then, you know, the next few times I did it like it became a thing for us just where I was allocating my time and you know if she wanted to sit down at the end of the day and catch up, or you know, and talk or watch a show I'm like sorry, I gotta go do my.
Speaker 2:It causes problems, and so it was so interesting to me when last year, when Natalie completed 75 hard for the first time, we did it together, game changer, and I'm like man. This applies to everything in life. When you and your family or your significant other or your people on your team at work, like when you're all beaten to the same drum, life is just completely different, and I think you know, like it says, if you want to go fast, go alone go know, like it says, if you want to go fast go alone go far, go together, and that's what you know, I feel like, since we completed it together last year, like we've
Speaker 2:just been on a whole different wavelength together. Um, not perfect by any means. Um, you know, she chewed my butt this morning and, uh, I deserved it. Um with just was not being smart with my time and I that's one of the things I love most about her is she will let me know when I'm not not on the right track, and so you gotta have that, and so you know, shout out to natalie, she's she's not a yes person.
Speaker 1:No, she's not.
Speaker 2:No, she's not.
Speaker 1:It's good to have, because Jackie does the same, you know she.
Speaker 3:I may have failed 75 hard, seven days in, but you know, at night I'm like, hey, did you get your picture done? Did you read? You know, I still, just because I didn't get it done. I want to make sure that, hold him accountable and that's. We do that a lot and it's kind of irritating at some point. But then you look back and you're like, well, I'm glad they said that, because I needed to be put in my place true, it's routine for me.
Speaker 1:I'm a monotonous person, so that's the way I look at it too. But yeah, she still checks. Hey, did you do this? I'm like, yeah, I did so gotta use those reminders yes, those are huge.
Speaker 3:Sorry, I was gonna say, andrew called me out this. Um, I had to tell this story because he was doing his chores and cleaning the counter and he found a chocolate chip and he's like whose is this? Like, who did this? And we're like oh, you know, jake was making protein balls you know some, it was okay and but the fact that an 11 year old like called us out on it, um, I thought it was he. He was holding us accountable you know, kids see it you kids see everything.
Speaker 1:I mean I know you know that. So, um, that's just funny, because see hers, you know, carry his water jug around. I mean 11 year old, right? Yep, okay, I don't want to get his age wrong 11 year old carrying a half gallon of water. I'm like, hey, I'm like you don't need to drink a full gallon.
Speaker 3:Not yet.
Speaker 1:But it's just funny to see them carry it around. Like I said, they see what you do. They're going to follow suit, so it's just cool to see.
Speaker 2:Before we wrap up here, I think you guys want one more funny story. Natalie and I are at brunch and I let Copeland. While we were waiting for our food, he didn't get the chance to watch the second half of the Lions game last night, so he wanted to watch the recap and so I give him, I load it up, I'm letting him watch the recap of the game and and it must have finished and I wasn't paying attention. So he starts going through my pictures in my phone and he's coming across you know me taking my daily picture for 75 Hard and he's like Dad, what's this? And he's like waving it around in front of everybody and I'm like you know, luckily, yes, no, it's not a naked picture, but like, if you just glance at it, you probably think that and I'm like dude, like no more phone, like you're done. So that was my moment with him.
Speaker 1:That's hilarious, dude. Mine are deleted right away Because they're saved in the app. So, yeah, I delete those right away. Yeah, so I hate looking at them.
Speaker 1:Oh, that was actually one of the hardest things of 75 hard for me it's just, it's just crazy because, like you know, when we're doing it, you see yourself every single day. So that's what's nice about having those photos. But, yeah, the app saves them. You know, it's just like the first format it saves them, it's in there, so that's hilarious. Now I know, yeah, all right, we're wrapping this up, man, let's wrap it up. How long are we in? We're good I like it All right Well.
Speaker 2:Before we do it, I'll leave you all with one quote.
Speaker 1:I was going to go into that. My two yeah.
Speaker 2:I'll leave you with my quote that pertains to this topic is by Nipsey Hussle. He said that if your circle doesn't inspire you, you don't have a circle, you have a cage, and it just goes back to how important it is with the people you're surrounding yourself, with the groups that you're engaging in socializing with, and you know, if they're not inspiring you, how are you gonna take the next steps?
Speaker 1:mm-hmm, and I mean all of you won't talk and won't also. I actually have a few, but I'll just do the my favorite one. You know, the people in your corner should do more than cheer for you. They should inspire you to become the best version of yourself. And I mean it's pretty simple and it's just having those right people in that circle. And we're, we have one. We have a good group that we've grown, and I will have a link that's attached if you guys want to get up in it. I mean you don't have to do 75 hard, but it's just nice being around the. You know, individuals that push each other to be better, and that's what we're trying to do.
Speaker 3:And I think, like the that group again, I may have mentioned, like I don't cook or bake or any of that, but the amount of recipes that people are sharing.
Speaker 1:That's a benefit.
Speaker 3:Right and I'm like okay. And then, or like the, the or books. But I think the biggest thing is we're all on. I look back of like in our twenties. You know, we all went out and took shots and now our shots are.
Speaker 1:American ginger shots.
Speaker 3:And you know, and we have someone in the group that makes those I mean it's just it's not about again just 75 hard. It is just this group that you're learning. None of us know one another, like all of us. I mean there's little kind of pockets, but it's really cool and I just kind of sit back and watch and if I want to, I think I threw something in there about Quitters Day on last Friday and so I'll participate once in a while, but yeah, I mean every day it's awesome.
Speaker 3:Just if you need some motivation or accountability, it's just, they're there for you.
Speaker 1:And also, before we close here, it's like here locally, the people that are in the group that are here locally. It's like here, locally, the people that are in the group that are here locally it's getting to the point where there's negative degree temperatures for an outdoor workout. So just to see these people I mean they're prioritizing their days when to go, but how they're bundled up and that is the hard part going in these negative temperatures. I remember when I went my first time. I mean, personally, I don't mind the cold because I'm a furnace, so I'm always hot. I don't wear very many layers at all.
Speaker 3:I look like the kid from Christmas Story. Yeah, so it's different with you.
Speaker 1:But when I went the first time in negative like 30 wind chills or whatever like that, my face was burnt and it's just very eye-opening, it's just mental the entire time. But just to see everybody in the group that's starting to do it, they're prepping, yeah, they're prepping, and people have the emojis on there, they're nervous. I'm like, hey, you'll be fine once you get moving. So just don't watch the watch, just go on your walk and play something in your ear.
Speaker 2:So, but other than that brax no, just looking forward to continue this along. Um, you know, subscribe, follow us. We got some some great things coming down the pipeline. We got some guests lined up that I'm really excited about, and I think they're going to be game changers for for not just you and I in this group, but for everyone that listens. So I'm really excited about that for sure.
Speaker 1:Can't wait. It's gonna be a great year. Just keep building, stacking wins every day, but jack, we're out of here.
